Curious about some of my favorite things and activities lately? Here are things I've been digging for the last few weeks.Read More
When you're a breastfeeding mother, being kid-free means you've got a pump with you to maintain your milk supply and prevent feeling uncomfortable. But how do you work pump (or breastfeeding) access in with something glitzy and festive?Read More
The holidays can be full of joy: making memories with loved ones, first meetings between baby and family members, and the joy in being surrounded by family. Oftentimes those joyful moments can be overshadowed by the stress of travel, planning, parties, and family.Read More
Time for another list of my Friday Favorites! The weeks have gone by very quickly and I can't believe that Thanksgiving will be here next week. Then come the holidays and a whole new year! This week's picks feature lace, red lips, and more.Read More
Way back when I first started this blog, I would do a Friday Favorites post almost every week. I would write about stuff I really enjoyed that week. I shared info on my favorite apps, books, makeup, shoes, clothes, you name it. I think it's time to start that feature up again, don't you?Read More
I'm a huge fan of accessories. I use them to take pretty simple outfits (like my standard mom uniform of skinny jeans and a t-shirt) to a different level. As a mother and student, I need accessories that are functional and look good, too. When I saw pics of JORD wood watches, I knew I wanted one. These unique watches are beautiful, but help me keep on schedule. Trying to time school pick up with obtaining clinical hours can be really tough some days. At least I look good doing it right?
This post was sponsored by JORD Wood Watches, but as always, the opinions and photos are my own.
I chose the Fieldcrest Series Dark Sandalwood Watch because it was a beautiful deep brown color, which is perfect for fall. It's neutral enough to go with anything I wear, but really stands out on its own. It arrived in this beautiful handcrafted box on its own little display pillow.
I typically wear the watch with in a business casual setting, but it works beautifully with just a pair of jeans and a t-shirt. I most often wear it to complete clinical hours. It helps me keep track of how long appointments were, how long a mom and baby fed, and whether I need to have the babysitter pick my son up from school. You know, just living that lactation intern life! The dark color of the Fieldcrest Series Dark Sandalwood Watch works so well with my wardrobe. Since the watches are sized, I ordered my watch a little loose, so I could wear it farther back on my wrist when holding a baby. Don't worry, they have a foolproof sizing guide to help you.
Now comes the fun part!
JORD Wood Watches is holding a contest where the lucky winner wins a $75 e-gift code to their online shop. You can pick any item you like! All other entrants will receive a $20 code just for entering!
Contest ends on 10/30/2016, no purchase necessary to enter.
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Today was a tough day at our house. I wasn't feeling great, we were all recovering from a weekend trip so everyone was off their game, and we were all feeling a little grumpy. You know those days, where you're wishing for bedtime at 2pm and feel like you could have a meltdown at any moment. I know I'm not alone in feeling like this! I dealt with similar emotions a lot when dealing with postpartum anxiety and depression. Here are five things I did to help us get through the day:
Even if it's just the backyard or front yard for 10 minutes, get out there. A change of scene and hopefully some sunshine did me a lot of good. The kids get to run around and get rid of some energy, too. Feeling the sunshine and breeze on my skin helps calm me down.
Whether it's a mama friend, your mom, or someone you haven't spoken to in a while, reach out and call them. No texts or no emails. This works the best if it's actual talking. There's something about hearing the voice of someone you've been thinking about that is so satisfying. Plus, I bet you'll make their day if you reach out to them.
Move Your Body
We all know you can head outside when the weather's nice, but what can we do if it's raining, cold, or snowing? Dance parties are one of my favorite ways to shake up an ordinary afternoon. You'll often see snippets of them on my Instagram story. Not only does it get me up and moving, but it helps my kids go wild. I have so much fun being silly with my boys. Yoga is another great way to move around. We are big fans of Cosmic Kids Yoga on YouTube, which is easy for my kindergartner to do and my toddler to follow. There are even themed sessions for your little Jedi or Frozen enthusiast. The best part is that the videos are free!
Eat or Drink Something
We're often so busy taking care of everyone else that we don't take very good care of ourselves. I don't mean massages and pedicures as a form of self care, I am referring to fulfilling the basic need of food and water. I've gone many a day where 4pm hits and I realize that my splitting headache is from a lack of food. Pop in a Hershey kiss or piece of dark chocolate, eat an apple, or make yourself a smoothie. Remember that you can't nurture with an empty tank!
Take a Mommy Break
Make sure the kids are in a safe area and let them play while you go to another room of the house. I've been known to escape to our master bedroom while the kids play in our mostly safe living room. I'm not gone for long, only 5 minutes or so, and I keep an ear out for screams or squabbles. Even if it's using the bathroom in peace (hey, we've all peed with an audience), a little alone time can be a great quick fix.
When I feel like I'm going going to have a meltdown, I notice that it helps to lower my standards of mothering until the moment passes. Sometimes all I have the ability to do is the bare minimum. This was never more true than when I was dealing with postpartum depression and anxiety. While we watched more TV than I would've liked, my kids were fed and they were safe. Sometimes just enough is the best we can do and that's okay. We are enough.
How do you cope when you've reached the end of your rope? Let me know in the comments!
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After 27 months of breastfeeding, R weaned a few weeks ago. We began the weaning process just after his second birthday in May, but I wanted to move slowly. He is my last baby; since I won't be breastfeeding ever again, I really wanted to make sure it was something we were both ready for.
Over the course of a week, we moved from a few times a day down to just nap/bed time. That slowly transitioned to once every few days. After about 5 days of not nursing, I started to notice a change in my mood: I went from feeling normal to feeling really angry, I had a hard time getting out of bed in the morning, I didn't want to leave the house, I was exhausted despite doing next to nothing all day. I recognized these symptoms as matching up with my postpartum depression and anxiety. After speaking to my husband, he acknowledged that my behavior seemed to have changed drastically.
I bet you can guess what I did next. I put that toddler back to the breast for two reasons: I was starting to feel full/uncomfortable, and I didn't want to go down that road again. Depression during or after weaning is not unusual (read more here and here), but it is not studied very often. Many moms report feeling sadness or grief, especially if they weaned before they were ready to do it. If you notice symptoms of depression in yourself during or after weaning, please reach out to your health care provider ASAP. You're not alone in your emotions!
Over the next few days, I made sure to nurse once a day (usually bed time) while doing the things my therapist suggested I do to reduce depression and anxiety symptoms. I noticed my mood stayed more normal (whatever that means) and I felt better emotionally. One night, R didn't want to nurse. He said, "no, Mommy," and cuddled up to me instead. That was that, he was done. I haven't offered since that night and it has been about 2 weeks since he last showed an interest in breastfeeding. We had made it 27 and a half months. Now when I ask him if he wants milk, he runs to the fridge in the kitchen. Yup, definitely done.
I'm sad to see this chapter in my life end. It helped me reduce my risk of certain types of cancer, helped my sons reduce their risk for diabetes and other chronic illnesses, and it made them healthy and strong. Breastfeeding not only helped me nourish my sons, it helped give me a focus and direction in my life. My journey with my oldest helped me realize that I wanted to support and advocate for breastfeeding mothers. To say it played a big role in my life would be an understatement. You wouldn't be reading this blog post without it!
While there is sadness, there is also joy. Joy in the next chapter of my life as a mother, in wearing shift dresses, in sharing my experience with others in hopes of helping them. Now I will have to parent without my breasts, which is both thrilling and scary. I'll still be discussing breastfeeding and #bfingstyle on the blog, that is one thing that won't change. With that, I raise this large glass of wine or cup of coffee, depending on what time it is as you read this, to my breasts. Thank you for nourishing my babies, for helping define me in such a big way, and for not completely disappearing now that breastfeeding is over.
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Fall is my favorite season of the year. I love it for many reasons: the cooler weather, my wedding anniversary, and my most favorite color palette. The brilliant golds, burnt oranges, and deep reds are beautiful and a great way to incorporate the seasonal elements into your clothing. Of these colors, the deep red shades have to be my favorite. You could say that I'm berry excited for fall.
Throughout history, the color red has been associated with sacrifice, danger and courage. Currently many people associate red with heat, activity, passion, sexuality, anger, love and joy. It is the color of symbolizing happiness and good fortune in many Asian cultures. A hue that evokes such strong emotion can be a little intimidating to wear. One doesn't have to go bold in an all deep red colored outfit. Below I've put together several of my favorite berry hued things, starting at lipstick and ending at dresses.
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Red is one of the colors to wear this fall. I saw this vibrant dress on a trip to H&M and was excited to see that it was breastfeeding friendly! The dress has a deep v-neck which can easily be pulled to the side to breastfeed. The dress is neither long, nor short - it's a midi length which hits mid calf for most women. It's a great transitional style regardless of what season we are heading into.
I put together two looks for this; one is more kid friendly than the other, but items can can cross over. The dress is versatile enough to wear out on a date night or moms night out and to run errands with the family. Its midi length makes it easy to dress up or down.
In addition to the dress below, I found links to similar dresses that are red and breastfeeding friendly, along with bags, shoes, and jewelry. As always, links to shop can be found at the end of this post.
The open toe ankle booties are perfect for still warm fall days, but the leather (or faux leather) material gives them an autumnal feel. I am all about the stacked heels. Despite the name of this blog, I infrequently teeter around on a stiletto heel! Stacked heels give me the height I like without worrying about wiping out with each step. I love the simplicity and sophistication of an envelope clutch. For me, it's a great alternative to the massive diaper bag I usually tote around. I own several of these in a number of colors that I use in real life. The delicate bar necklace adds a touch of sophistication without competing with such a strong colored dress.
I've been singing the praises of lace up ballet flats for some time. They add an extra something to an outfit, even if it's just jeans and a t-shirt. Sophisticated, but still easy to chase a toddler - this is my new barometer for everything! While the flats come in a variety of colors, patterns, and textures, I would wear a neutral pair with this dress. Camel or light brown is such a nice change from black. I found the cutest teething necklace to pair with this dress and it seems to match the red almost perfectly. The faux suede tote bag is the best way to make sure you have everything you need when stepping out with your kiddos.