My Summer Beauty Must Haves

Summer Beauty List

Summer Beauty List by lactivistinloubs 
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The warmer weather is a great time to try new trends. I'm a fan of bright colors and a dewy glow.

Skin: Since my skin tone isn't very even (I have red areas and dark spots), I use a bit of BB cream to correct it. Of the three items listed, I prefer the Maybelline BB cream. It provides light coverage and does not feel heavy on my face. The Smashbox cream provides medium coverage, while Jane Iredale is full coverage.

Lips and Eyeliner: A quick swipe of bright lipstick is my go-to, but I'll swap it out for pigmented eyeliner if I have a few extra minutes. The first lipstick shown (Nars Audacious in Grace) is the perfect coral pink on my medium tan complexion. The first eyeliner shown (Nyx Cosmetics Retractable Eyeliner in Aqua Green) is more sheer, so I put on a few layers to make my brown eyes pop.

Glow: Using an illuminator is a great way to work a summer glow at night. While the products shown may be too dark for some complexions, each brand makes lighter and cooler shades. I like to mix it in with my face lotion for a subtle all over glow. Alternately, you can use your fingers to highlight brow bones, cheekbones, and your collar bone.

Nails: Since I wash my hands about 17,000 times a day, I've stopped getting manicures at the nail salon. The colors chip quickly. Instead, I've started doing my own nails at home. It's a great form of self care and saves money, too. The first polish shown (Essie's "Sunset Sneaks") is one I've been wearing over and over again. It's supposed to be a bright crimson, but appears bright coral on my complexion.

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Welcome to the Jungle

For my birthday last week, I went to sing karaoke with a few friends. One of the songs we sang was Guns N Roses' "Welcome to the Jungle" - it was a blast! It must've gotten stuck in my subconscious, because I loved the jungle print dress when I saw it. My first thought was, "ooh I can breastfeed in that!"

Since summer is wedding season, I thought it would be perfect for someone who's looking to try a less common print. I included some brighter accessories for those feeling bold, and more classic ones if you'd rather let the dress take the attention. Add your favorite nursing bra to make it breastfeeding friendly!

A Letter to Myself as a New Mom

Dear New Mom Me,

Congratulations on that sweet baby BOY! Looks like our gut instinct was right the whole pregnancy. I know he came early, but he's perfect. Sniff his head, count his fingers, kiss his tiny baby feet. Marvel at how much he looks like his daddy. Put him to your breast constantly. Are you ready for your world to be turned upside down? To balance out the craziness, you will love him more fiercely than you ever imagined possible. Get ready to cry over how much you love this tiny 6 pound 3 ounce being.

The first few months are going to be hard. Breastfeeding will seem insurmountable, but you'll do it. Your marriage will suffer, because someone else's needs will be put ahead of your husband for the first time ever. Rest assured that you will get through it. You need each other more than ever, keep communicating. Give each other grace, a big hug, and butt squeezes. All of it will help, and you will get through this stronger and loving each other more. He's your partner on this wild ride called parenthood. You'll laugh together, cry together, and love together.

Going back to work is going to suck. I'm sorry, there's no other way for me to put it. You will cry over how much you miss the baby. You will worry about missing his firsts, that he'll love the babysitter more than you, that he's missing you. Your time together will be so precious. His whole face will light up when he sees you. You are his mama, his whole world. He will not forget that.

You'll go through a period where you're irritable and paranoid about leaving the house. You'll talk yourself out of every social event you're invited to and lash out when questioned. Your husband will urge you to call a therapist. Do it. It will help. These feelings will come up again after your next child is born, but they will seem overwhelming because they're compounded with other major changes. You're not alone. It will be okay.

Remember that the children's hearts are big and very forgiving. For right now, there's nothing that a big hug and some ice cream won't fix. Have a dance party every night if you can. Realize that you will not be your old self ever again. You'll have to figure out who you are now that you are a mother. You will be a newer and better version of yourself.

Motherhood is hard, but worth it. So worth it. Just give it time. You're a great mom.

Fourth of July Style

It's hard to believe that July 4th is just 8 days away. Didn't the summer just start? Here are some festive style options for moms to be and for nursing moms, with accessories for both in the middle. Happy Independence Day!

Fourth of July


Each year on my birthday, I write a post acknowledging what I've accomplished in the past 365 days with relation to motherhood, being a wife, working towards IBCLC, and self acceptance. I've gone through more changes in the past year than many go through in several years and those changes have left me reeling. On top of new baby in a new city with a new job, I dealt (and am still dealing with) with postpartum depression and anxiety.

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  • Motherhood, Wifedom, and Family: After a very difficult year adjusting to my new role as a stay at home mom, I'm starting to enjoy my new role. I am thankful to be home to watch Rohan grow. I'm still working on being a gentle and patient parent, but aren't we all? I'm very thankful for my husband's unflinching support and his uncanny ability to know me better than I know myself.
  • Body acceptance: I lost a lot of weight while pregnant on bed rest, but I lost most of my muscle as well. I've been building it back slowly. The mirror and I still aren't friends on some days, but I feel stronger than I have in a long time. This body has grown and nurtured two strong little boys and it is amazing.
  • Self acceptance: This is where I feel like I have made a lot of progress, thanks to therapy. Postpartum depression and anxiety turned me into someone I didn't know. I yelled all the time and felt angry and sad all at once. Everyone around me walked on eggshells, afraid I would snap if they did something I didn't like. I didn't want my children to remember me as the mother who yelled a lot. I've come to realize that I am not a super hero. I'm a mom trying to make it from one day to the next while doing what's best for her family. Self care has helped me recharge my batteries and I am a better wife and mom for it.
  • IBCLC: I'm still on track to sit for the exam in 2016. I'll find out soon whether I got into the pathway 2 class I still need.

33 was one of the hardest years of my life.  I've come a long way from where I was less than a year ago. While there are some days when I don't want to get out of bed, I enjoy being home with my children. We are laying down roots in our new city. I am making friends. I am finally feeling like myself for the first time in ages. I'm thankful for a new year and a fresh start. I sincerely hope the next year brings me more happiness, more friends, and a greater sense of self.

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